With rare exception, I eat alone at lunch time.
In the past 15 years, my jobs have been such that I don’t have co-workers with whom to have lunch or the co-workers can’t connect to have lunch. And there were some times the co-workers didn’t make such good lunch company. There was also the temptation to run out when I can, gobble, and get back to work as soon as possible.
Eating alone has its benefits. I often read journals and papers. Unfortunately I tend to spill when I am not paying attention to my plate – it is one of the main reasons why I wear bowties.
Sometimes I get to hear other people’s cell phone calls or conversations. People think that people eating alone are deaf. I have heard many a fanciful conversation at counters and in fast food joints. It is free entertainment. Sometimes it is annoying – today I overheard a rather loud man talking nonstop about his operation.
Overall eating alone is either a dull or a sad past time. I think too much about the lonely situation I have at work. Eating alone touches a memory of the times I was growing up and ‘forced’ to eat alone or elsewhere (although there is some consolation these kids have grown up to become my patients).
I get tempted to ask a fellow ‘eating alone’ person if they want to join me for company, not unlike the scene in Moonstruck where Olympia D asks another person eating alone to join her for dinner.
Ah well. It is not a major issue, but I experience it every work day.


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January 24, 2008 at 8:19 am
Maddog
It’s funny, I never think about it but I eat almost every meal alone. My roommate is usually not home when I eat dinner, or I eat at work long before the other workers arrive for their shifts. It is lonely, but I suppose I’ve gotten used to it. Of course I would rather eat alone than with someone I don’t really care for.
January 24, 2008 at 8:39 am
Lemuel
We eat alone together - separated of course by two time zones.
At two of the jobs I have had in my computer science career I had the pleasure of eating with members of my team who were compatible and great company. But in my last two jobs (spanning 12 years now) I’ve learned to eat alone in my cubicle. I credit eating alone with preserving what little sanity I have.
January 24, 2008 at 9:00 am
Merri
LOL about the bowtie coming in handy for spills..lol!
When I worked at the hospital, I chose to eat alone.
I would find a secluded spot(sometimes a chair on a stair landing !)
I wasn’t lonely, as I always had a good book for entertainment and it was a joy to, “escape”, the hospital environment, both mentally and physically..
Now I only have 15 minutes and eat (gulp) a snack down with my co workers; and frankly would PREFER to eat as in former times.
Aww, about your being, “forced”, to eat alone while growing up..
Yes that must be a HUGE consolation that some of the kids are now your patients..lol.
January 24, 2008 at 9:26 am
tigeryogiji
I eat alone at lunch too, mostly because I eat at my desk.
But then again, I’m not alone, because I tend to surf the net at lunch, so I guess that I get to spend my lunchtime with all of you!
January 24, 2008 at 10:43 am
Lewis
I love eating alone. Well, maybe I should say that I don’t mind it. I find it easier to be in tune with the world around me, less complicated. But I like it with my partner too…..that’s always great. I guess I can swing in both directions.
January 24, 2008 at 12:15 pm
Cameron
I don’t like eating alone in restaurants, especially for dinner. Lunch, somehow, is less bad.
This has happened a couple times recently when I went down to San Jose to play with the orchestra. There’s a nice Thai restaurant not far from the hall where I’ve eaten dinner between rehearsals.
There’s nothing more lonely than eating alone, to me anyway. Especially when all the other tables have multiple occupants.
January 24, 2008 at 1:15 pm
Greg
I always eat lunch alone while at work. Gives me a chance to read and to break away from the phones and the hectic wok flying across my desk. I’d probably slowly go insane without that little break.
January 24, 2008 at 2:25 pm
BentonQuest
I often choose to eat lunch alone at work. It helps the introvert in me make it through the day.
January 24, 2008 at 4:12 pm
David
I might be a bit weird but I actually enjoy eating alone in restaurants. I love saying “No, just for one please!”
January 24, 2008 at 4:50 pm
Maggie
Lunchtime can be such a subjective situation.
Especially, pertaining to, or derived from, one’s own consciousness, in distinction from external observation; ralating to the mind, or intellectual world, in distinction from the outward or material excessively occupied with, or brooding over, one’s own internal states.
Do I eat with my co-workers? Or do I eat alone? Choosing to eat alone can raise a rude flag, especially when there are other people involved. I personally prefer to spend my precious few moments at lunch to myself but if I do, there is a possibility that I might be insulting my co-workers.
What to do?
If I feel like being alone, I have to go out. If it’s not important, I stay and
chat. Because that’s what people do when they spend lunch together.
It can sometimes be tedious because usually you have nothing (outside of work) in common with these people.
PS I don’t have a cubicle or office to hide in, like a lot of you do.
January 24, 2008 at 7:30 pm
Karen
Moonlighting! One of my favorites!
We went to the Met to see La Boheme. Walking on the same sidewalk as in the movie was incredible. Now when I watch the movie I am taken right back to the night we were there.
January 25, 2008 at 7:07 am
bid
So it’s OK to eavesdrop on people when the are yakking on their phone. Thank goodness, I do it all the time! *L*
January 25, 2008 at 9:05 am
Jason
If I was still in Phoenix, I would totally have lunch with you
January 25, 2008 at 12:38 pm
Pink
Me too - if I were still in Phoenix, I’d drop by and take you out for lunch
I like to go out and eat alone sometimes because I get some time to give my brain a break from whatever I’ve been doing.
But perhaps its the fact that you sit there listening to other people’s problems all day and there is no chance for some uplifting chit chat.
Maybe you could make a phone call to your partner and connect at lunch time then spend some quiet time with yourself. Difficult if you’re really a social person to be alone at meals.
Am eating now - some rice cakes for dinner (too knackered to cook) and so I guess we are eating together
xx
pinks
January 25, 2008 at 4:37 pm
Kalvin
You poor dear! That sounds horrible. Let’s do lunch sometime. And I love it when people are loud on their cell phones. I’m a total eavesdropper.
January 25, 2008 at 6:04 pm
Seamus Aloysius
I don’t know why, but I always felt bad for someone if I saw them eating alone… I’ve been cooking in a restaurants for over 30 years now, and whenever I see it I get a lonely feeling.
Of course, I’ve always had to eat standing up with all kinds of people barking orders at me… I suppose I’d rather sit down alone to eat rather than that.
Bet you’re cute in that bow-tie, Bro.
January 25, 2008 at 6:21 pm
Zeph
Eating is often a cue for a social occasion. On the other hand, there’s nothing so irritating as settling down for a quiet lunch with a newspaper or book, and having some stranger want to talk to you.
There’s nothing wrong with being alone. If you’re not comfortable with being by yourself, are the other people any more than props?
January 25, 2008 at 6:53 pm
johnmichael
Sometimes I feel like eating alone is better. This way you can recoup and rethink about your morning. I agree that sometimes it might be lonely, but a lot of times (especially throughout clinical rotations in medical school) where I wanted to be alone.