Here are some tips to better communicate with your doctor –
1) Write out symptoms and questions ahead of time, so you won’t forget what you wanted to discuss. You won’t loose time trying to recall things.
2) If you are seeing a new physician; print out your medical history ahead of time. This includes family history of who had what/how old they died, your own past illnesses and operations, and your social history. This saves time – the new doctor doesn’t have to spend time getting this information if you have it written out already.
3) Always have a list of your medications and doses, including over the counters and herbals. If you see more than one physician, each doctor may not know what you are taking. Again, this saves time for the matters at hand.
4) What gets a doctor’s attention is something new, something different, or something extraordinary. Statements like “I have a stomach pain I have never experienced” or “this head ache is like none I have ever had before’ makes a physician less likely to dismiss the ‘let’s wait and watch’ approach.
5) Most things have a variety of treatment options, including non surgical and non pharmaceutical interventions. Spontaneously bring up you are interested in these if they are available. Lots of MDs reach quickly for a prescription pad; and are pleased to consider other treatments.
Here are some things not to do -
1) Tell the doctor what the diagnosis is. “I have a cough and I KNOW it is TB”. People read all sorts of things on the internet and come in convinced they have a specific condition; it turns out they are usually wrong. Rather, convey you are concerned you may have this or that, and then give your supportive symptoms.
2) Don’t tell the doctor what to prescribe or order; “I want Valium” or “I need an MRI”. Most MDs don’t like being treated like a waiter. Rather, bring up “I saw an ad for X, would that be something I could try or benefit from?” Be prepared to hear ‘no’ (I hope a “no” is given with an explanation why X wouldn’t be the best solution).
3) In Medicine there is something called ‘the doorknob issue’ where the appointment is over, the patient touches the doorknob on the way out, turns around, and remembers he wants you to fill out papers or address another symptom or problem. Try to bring up all topics at the beginning so there is room in the appointment for all matters.


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April 20, 2008 at 5:36 PM
Maddog
Hey, even waiters don’t want to be treated like waiters. But I understand your list. My best friend is a doctor and I hear all her horror stories. I hope your list helps.
April 20, 2008 at 6:02 PM
A different Brent
I disagree with one thing. I find I have to lead the doctors to a diagnosis. Recently I developed a rash from cutting down a fig tree. The doctor diagnosed it as a fungus, even though I told them about the fig tree. Eventually I ended up at the Derm and he said, that is was proabably a contact dermatitis from the fig tree.
Urspo – one of the sine que nons of being a good doctor is listening to people. I can’t tell you how often I get labeled a ‘genius’ merely because I listened to somebody and took a careful history. Why so many doctors don’t do this is a mystery to me.
April 20, 2008 at 7:39 PM
Coco
I like my doctor…
I’ve known him for over 20 years!!
He was my parents’ doctor too : )
Everytime I took my mom or dad in to see him,
I automatically (informally) got “checked” too. : )
I trust doctor, and he trusts me.
A few weeks after my mom passed away I became very depressed…
I went in to see my doctor and he LISTENED, CONVERSED about “life & death” and about my parents, and ADVISED me. (He also hugged me, and told me how special my parents were to him…and that I had been a great daughter) BUT he gave me no meds. (that time).
*I’ve learned to speak up, to question,…my doctor and I form a team!
*And yes, I write my questions ahead of time : )
Have a GREAT week!
Blessings.
April 20, 2008 at 7:56 PM
deveil
thanks for that doc! Sometimes it can be hard, I love my doctor, I’m lucky to have one that really takes their time with me.
April 21, 2008 at 6:25 AM
TigerYogiji
Very good advice!
April 21, 2008 at 7:56 AM
"Joe"
Yes. Good advice. I’ll make a list suggesting the “treatments” I will need. But doubt he’d prescribe them! It’s a sort of “physical therapy.” LOL
I know. I’m bad.
April 21, 2008 at 8:28 AM
Steven
I like all of your advice, but I would not “always” agree with #2 of your list of what not to do. And your instance of MRI is a perfect example. When I used to be in HMO (when I had no choice), my PCP wouldn’t authorize them eventhough my neurologist would request that I get one. But for me, what is always paramount is to ask, ask, ask. Sometimes I get too complacent with how I am being treated (medically).
April 21, 2008 at 9:59 AM
Greg
I always make sure I let the doctor know about what’s bothering me. The last time, I went in to have a check-up for my diverticulosis and before I left the table I asked him to check a peculiar red spot next to my eye. He happily (it seemed) checked the spot and burned it away with liquid nitrogen. Everyone else said not to worry about it, but I’m glad I had it checked.
April 21, 2008 at 4:36 PM
cedrorum
I like your tips. I think I need to print out the first set of 5 for my wife to use. For her visits and if she takes the kids.
aka – valown. If you haven’t checked, you have an email from me.
April 21, 2008 at 4:39 PM
cedrorum
Filled in the new blog (website) address incorrectly on your form on my prior comment. If I don’t fix it now I will forget. It’s been a long day.
April 21, 2008 at 4:51 PM
Merri
You are lucky if you have a doc that listens.
Ours has really changed; always seems in a hurry.
I never have felt like talking to him about anything(Do not go, in fact)
He does not listen and was angry when H asked if he could get a second opinion one time(which turned out BENEFICIAL and avoided an un-necessary and intrusive op)
*sigh*
April 21, 2008 at 8:55 PM
Java
Thanks for the list. This is very helpful. I need to be better about writing my lists before I go.
April 22, 2008 at 4:24 AM
Doug
Awesome lists. I always do #1 from list 1. #4 from list 1 threw me for a loop at first: something new? Yeah, a purple-headed cyst with green tentacles and red polka dots is growing on my left eyeball. I bet you never saw that before.
And I’m guilty of #2 from list 2, but I do say, “I read about…” instead of “Gimme gimme gimme…”
April 22, 2008 at 12:28 PM
Mark H
Different Brent repeats MY experience with our GP………the problem “might” be that I have only seen him on an average of once every 2-3 years…he needs me to lead him into something, and I may well have to REPEAT what I’m trying to say….he keeps wanting to perform physicals every time I show up (I know, I don’t go in very often)…instead of listening to the reason I called for an appt in the first place. I’d switch but then have to start all over again with another stranger. I DO wish we had a good doctor we actually KNEW.
April 24, 2008 at 3:25 AM
Bigg
Since I’m in the business of making doctors I emailed some of my former students your list (properly credited, of course!) and they were very receptive.