I read on-line today is Mardi Gras. I completely forgot about this day, which shows you how unimportant it is to me. I am “not against Mardi Gras”. It’s just I never know what I am supposed to do on Fat Tuesday. I grew up WASP,; there were no parades, gaudy costumes, or revelry. I don’t relish the notion of gorging myself. I tend to work on Tuesday and Wednesday, which don’t seem too different really. Someone has a box of green, yellow, and purple beads. I suppose I could don a few strands and shock the patients. That’s about it for me. Such a reprobate.
Wednesday is Ash Wednesday. Thanks to work I will miss church service. On this day I abstain from meat and eat sparingly, for old dignity sake. This reminds me to think of some sort of Lenten penance. I know many poo-poo the notion of ‘giving up something for Lent”, but I find it a good discipline. The pang of missing a mawkish pleasure is a gentle tug to remind me of more spiritual matters.
As I have a dozen new year’s resolutions, it is hard to find something new to better myself. I am a sinking ship with no freight to throw overboard.
Someone, as usual, is no help. Whenever I ask for some ideas as to how to improve myself viz. what bad habit around the house I could work upon, he goes mum. I suspect he could name a dozen things I do that drives him bats, but darned if I can drag them out of him.
I don’t want to give up something too easy, like pickles (seldom) or smoking cigars (never). Perhaps I could give up Facebook, or Scruff, or Youtube. That would hurt, ouch! Giving up tea or whisky is beyond Lent and borders on self-inflicted martyrdom. I will think about it.
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March 4, 2014 at 3:59 AM
anne marie in philly
I give up nothing; why should I? life’s too short to deny oneself of the good things in it!
March 4, 2014 at 4:24 AM
the cajun
If you were of the culture that celebrates, (not just a tourist with an excuse to drink heavily and behave badly) you would indulge in the best your imagination and creativity could produce. Trust me, by Wednesday morning you’d know exactly what to give up for Jeebus.
March 4, 2014 at 6:15 AM
Shawn
Why not Facebook?…….
March 4, 2014 at 6:52 AM
Urspo
That would be a challenge! I may take you up on that!
March 4, 2014 at 6:18 AM
damienscot
It has been a long-standing tradition for me to give up lobster for Lent. And some years, I have been tempted to just give up! This year I plan to give up my single status …
March 4, 2014 at 6:47 AM
Ron
I never got the whole Mardi Gras thing either, having grown up in a Southern Baptist household where anything that remotely smack of pleasure or enjoyment was considered sinful. Neither did I “get it” about the whole Ash Wednesday thing either and the giving up something for Lent. It’s all cultural in the end anyway isn’t it? Whatever gives one solace and contentment, I’m all for it. I prefer to make up my own holidays and self-disciplines which does cause consternation from some who subscribe religiously to the dictums of our culture. If we were born in the Middle East I suppose we would be bowing to Mecca in the East five times a day and showing our backside to the West.
March 4, 2014 at 6:52 AM
Will
Decades ago I solved the problem by giving up Christianity, specifically Catholicism. Life is a wonderful thing and I refused to live it under a cloud of inherited guilt, self-denial, and hatred for people the Church hated. I came out. I’m not going back in.
March 4, 2014 at 7:01 AM
Urspo
I find it useful to enter into periods of ritual abstinence and/or simplicity. It calms and heals me.
March 4, 2014 at 6:36 PM
David Jeffreys
Will, beautifully expressed. In one sentence (“Life is …”) you described organized religion, and though it has been only one decade for me, I am not going back in either.
March 4, 2014 at 8:00 AM
Massage Jeffrey
Every year our friend Ed Long gave up riding in dirigibles for Lent. One year I gave up Christianity.
March 4, 2014 at 9:17 AM
Laurent
Official Program for Mardi Gras. As the word implies Gras means a day of wonderful food and good wines, dancing and music until midnight.
So you can have a wonderful dinner party etc..
As for Ash Wednesday well ashes on your forehead usually done at church service. In Rome we would go look at the catacombs of various religious orders, there is a good one on Via Veneto by the USA Embassy. Thousands of skulls and bones artfully arranged to remind you that this is the future.
Sort of takes vanities right out of the picture.
March 4, 2014 at 11:10 AM
Urspo
I am ‘celebrating’ tonight with a good (my best?) bourbon which is apt for New Orleans style Mardi Gras!
March 4, 2014 at 12:51 PM
Will Jay
In my opinion Lent is about reconnecting to humanity, recognizing our frailty, and acknowledging, despite what we may believe, that we are limited and, depending upon your beliefs, rely on something greater than our individual powers. So rather than “giving up something” why not take on a discipline that brings you closer to your own gifts and nature to reconnect to who you are? Some ideas are to take on the practice of Centering Prayer, or each day of Lent write an actual letter on paper to someone important in your life (think of it…by Easter you will have written forty letters), or draw every day. I think it is more about mindfulness of whatever practice you choose.
March 4, 2014 at 9:26 PM
Greg
I didn’t even know it was Mardi Gras until I read your post!
March 4, 2014 at 9:35 PM
Stan
Dust in the wind, All we are is dust in the wind.
March 5, 2014 at 8:14 PM
Kiwi
I highly recommend you give up Facefuck. It’s just another excuse for the NSA to spy on you, and it will be dead and buried in a few years anyway, so no big loss.
March 5, 2014 at 8:47 PM
truthspew
I enjoy Ash Wednesday because it lets me identify the people I want to generally avoid.
That being said, many years ago I gave up faith and religious belief for lent. Never started up with either again after that.
March 6, 2014 at 3:34 AM
Ray
I saw where you gave up Facebook for lent. I am going to miss seeing on there. I almost did the same thing. I really do not know what I should have given up. May during this time of lent. May God Bless you now and always.
Hugs
Ray
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