Last weekend I went to the bookstore to purchase a blank book for a journal for the upcoming year. The second part of this annual ritual is to reread the present year’s journal in order to remember and reflect what I did and thought this year. I do not have to tell you 2020 was unique. Unlike previous reads there were no reminiscences of trips for they were all canceled. There were a lot of ‘what is going to happen’ entries about covid and Mother’s failing health. All in all 2020 resembled a Greek tragedy in which the actors do not know what will happen but you do and there is no preventing it.
Reading Journal 2020 reminded me there were some events other than daily doings. In March I lost a tooth (#14 to be exact) and this year I read 44 books and made 14 soups. I managed to achieve nearly all my resolutions except ‘go to the gym regularly”. Oh well.
The pages were mostly full up with daily doings (hardly worth recording) and with worries of which none of them really panned out – again. Sometimes I think this is the real point of journaling. It is not for documenting what happened but to assure my future self NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENED YOU GOT THROUGH IT. I am getting better at this viz. my angst entries are not as dark or as hysterical as in past years. True, the worries I wrote* were sometimes quite nasty but none were so devastating as I feared they would. Indeed most of them I did not remember until I reread them.
Dare I joke hindsight for once really is 2020?
I plan to keep journaling for I like having a place to put down my thoughts other than here online. In 2021 will write with more awareness my future self will be reading this a year’s hence and asking ‘really though”.
Here is a photo I took this morning when I went into work. It’s cold in my office at this time of year, so I brought along a sweater. I realized it is the same sweater I am wearing in the framed photograph.** This was taken sometime between 2001-2005. The sweater and I have endured fifteen years abdneither one of us have any moth holes.
This little bit of synchronicity at the end of the year makes for a good entry for tonight’s journal entry. It is apropos at the end of a year of doubt, sorrow, and worry.
* The main ones: tooth infection, covid; Mother’s decline, threats at work and the election.
**It is a photograph of a men’s group of which I was a member.
36 comments
December 28, 2020 at 2:14 PM
David Godfrey
Oh how I would love to have my grandmother’s decades of diaries, mostly where she was, the weather, what was ripe in the garden, but also entries on Pearl Harbor Day, or D-Day. Keep them, share them when you are done.
December 28, 2020 at 3:10 PM
Urspo
I have mixed feelings doubt anyone reading mine. lol
December 28, 2020 at 2:19 PM
Frogdancer Jones
You’re better looking now!
It seems odd to see someone wearing a jumper (as we call them) at this time of year. We’re all wearing shorts and t shirts!
December 28, 2020 at 3:11 PM
Urspo
It seldom gets cold enough in Arizona for garments such as these.
We get down around 5-10C quite gelid.
December 28, 2020 at 2:38 PM
jefferyrn
Ricky was just saying he wished he could find a cable knit sweater like yours. Too bad he is 16 years to late. Lol.
December 28, 2020 at 3:11 PM
Urspo
He can have mine lol
December 28, 2020 at 2:50 PM
larrymuffin
Yes finally 2020 ends and good riddance. I love this photo of you, so very handsome, no wonder you have to beat them off with a stick.
December 28, 2020 at 3:11 PM
Urspo
I don’t beat them off I embrace what’s coming to me.
December 28, 2020 at 3:23 PM
Moving with Mitchell
Yes, the best part is that you got through it.
December 28, 2020 at 3:58 PM
Urspo
indeed !
December 28, 2020 at 3:24 PM
Sam
Handsome man in both photos-both you and the sweater won the battle of time. this line, we all could use. “assure my future self NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENED YOU GOT THROUGH IT. “
December 28, 2020 at 3:59 PM
Urspo
Indeed again!
December 28, 2020 at 3:38 PM
anne marie in philly
such a handsome man is my friend spo!
December 28, 2020 at 3:59 PM
Urspo
aw shucks thanks
December 28, 2020 at 4:26 PM
Bob Slatten
You survived 2020 and that’s quite the accomplishment.
Cue Elaine Stritch singing ‘I’m Still Here’!
December 28, 2020 at 8:22 PM
Urspo
I often suggest to patients they listen to this song.
December 28, 2020 at 4:51 PM
Debra She Who Seeks
You got your money’s worth out of that sweater! I never keep a written journal. Never incriminate yourself in writing, it can be used against you at trial.
December 28, 2020 at 8:23 PM
Urspo
what sort of trial? In a divorce type or as a defendant in a homicide trial?
December 28, 2020 at 10:04 PM
Debra She Who Seeks
Just to name two, yes.
December 28, 2020 at 6:18 PM
Ron
Journaling or diary keeping is the best kind of activity to help me stay sane. I journaled regularly from 1976 through 1979 then stopped when a terrible person found my journal and didn’t approve of my entries and tore out the offending pages which resulted in his explosion from my center city apartment rental which I was letting him stay rent free while my house was being built (I sold our Philadelphia town house before our house in the country was completed). I began again journaling in April of 2007 and have been doing so ever since. My journals are of no interest to anyone especially after I am gone (not too long now), but I do derive contentment in writing down my thoughts, and take on the day’s activities. Ironically I’ve read very little of my older journals. Of those I read it is of a totally different person. Many of those events I write about I remember not at all. And those I do I am often embarrassed. My only regret is that I didn’t start keeping a journal as soon as I could write.
December 28, 2020 at 8:24 PM
Urspo
I too don’t reread these. often they are bit painful to see what was so anguishing and important now seems trivial.
December 28, 2020 at 9:43 PM
Old Lurker
15 years? Is this what you mean when you tell the muscular young men making passes at you at the bar, “I have sweatshirts older than you”?
You have lost 14 teeth? At your age? You are but a pup.
December 29, 2020 at 6:00 AM
Urspo
Someone says that expression.
I lost tooth #14 not fourteen teeth.
December 28, 2020 at 9:43 PM
Mistress Borghese
Your handsome!
As for 2020…Im ready to check out.
December 29, 2020 at 6:01 AM
Urspo
Lots of folks agree! (ready to check-out I mean)
December 28, 2020 at 10:41 PM
Linda Practical Parsimony
I have lost three teeth and I am horrified. two are destined for implants. I never keep a diary, but in some of my day planners I not things that happen or people I meet or date.
December 29, 2020 at 6:01 AM
Urspo
Do you save them for later reference?
December 29, 2020 at 7:10 AM
Lori
I carry a journal with me everywhere to write down any and everything. It’s much easier than little notes everywhere that get lost. My new one arrived yesterday so I will spend some time this weekend getting it set up. I’m a list maker.
After 15 years you and the sweater look very good!
December 29, 2020 at 7:37 AM
Urspo
As Lady Donato once said: “Sensible woman! ” to do so.
December 29, 2020 at 9:24 AM
Parnassus
I admire you for keeping a diary. I have thought of doing so but don’t really have the patience for it. I don’t know how edifying it would be to read last year’s entries, but I think it would be fun to revisit the journals of many years ago.
–Jim
December 29, 2020 at 9:59 AM
Urspo
It is fun sometimes at times to remember trips and where we ate and fun events. Mostly it is a reference for me when things happen like ‘what year did we replace the water heater? questions.
Often it is painful to reread the angst de jour knowing it is now nothing.
December 29, 2020 at 3:22 PM
Robert
I thank you for your friendship, wisdom, and generosity of comments. They helped to make my 2020 more agreeable.
December 30, 2020 at 1:37 PM
Urspo
Thank you
this is the best thing I’ve read all day.
December 30, 2020 at 12:26 PM
Rob
I thought the other guy in the pic was someone. You look awfully close. Thanks for clarifying in the fine print.
December 30, 2020 at 1:38 PM
Urspo
That is Chip Kramer. I remember him as a musician and he did EMDR.
I should look him up and see if he’s still about.
December 30, 2020 at 7:41 PM
Robzilla, Native of Slam Diego
You’re a better person than I am. If I kept a daily journal, I’d be plotting to burn it so I can keep warm tomorrow night.
In all seriousness, we almost made it. One more day, and hopefully 2021 will be much better.