My savings throw against The Angst Monster failed mightily this week.* At work I have fears about an unpredictable possibly violent patient. There is some anxiety induced by the buyout by The Overlords. At home I have concerns about upcoming events, including a flight to Michigan. I won’t watch the news anymore, as it is all ‘too much’. Everything seems to evoke emotions of helplessness and hopelessness. All challenges my training and my philosophy and my coping skills.
One of the most ancient and popular story-lines is “Slaying the Monster”. This universal stencil is seen in countless stories, tales, and movies. Slaying the monster is an archetype about coming to terms with The Shadow and its personifications. Here are the basics:
There is a monster in the area. It is usually not recognized as such right away. Complacent folk are not aware of it at first; the evidence is denied, dismissed, or deemed done by something else. In time the monster makes itself known and folks finally connect the dots it really is so. Folks (or The Hero) go to battle with the monster and its ilk and allies. The monster looks defeated and there is a sense of closure – only for the monster to return even worse than before. The scales tip and the prognosis turns grim; the monster is certain to ‘win’. Then – when things looks the bleakest – The Hero(s) find a solution and the monster is finally slain. Life goes back to normal, or a ‘new normal’, based on the experience. The Hero and the people are changed in some ways, hopefully for the wiser.
In the 20th century “Slaying the monster” stories became less resolute. The angst of the 20th century translated them into more pessimistic tales: one can not kill the monster but only squelch it for awhile. The Monster keeps coming back. This is reflected in all those horror films franchises with their never-ending sequels (think Michael from ‘Halloween” or the Godzilla movies).** Heroes come and go yet the Monster stays. As the newsman on The Onion says: “this sh-t never ends”.
While we want to slay the monster, make sure it is dead, this sort of closure only occurs in fairy tales. Fairy tales are comforting they assure us Good triumphs and Justice prevails. Dr. Jung and The Stoics would disagree. Jungians never ask “is there a monster (Shadow)?’ but ask ‘where is Shadow now?” For The Stoics, the monsters aren’t the obstacle in the way, the monsters are the way. Life is a series of whack-a-mole Hydra-headed monsters. Being conscious of our monsters makes them paradoxically manageable. We will endure – somehow – all monster attacks; our saving throws suffice. This isn’t much comfort but it is the best there is. I hope it is enough for me, anyway.
*In ‘Dungeons and Dragons’, when your character is attacked by a monster, you the player get to roll a twenty-sided dice for something called a ‘saving throw”. This means you’ve managed to dodge the attack. Perhaps that fire-breathing dragon was too far to the left, or the nasty gnome’s sling shot deflected off the tip of your shield. If you fail the throw, you get the full hit of the incoming weapon. Big monsters like demons, dragons, and Texas legislators often have a high saving throw number between 18-20. Stirges, by the way, have a saving throw of 6, which is surprisingly low.
**A curious solution to the problem of the unstoppable Monster is to render it less odious. Godzilla started out as a deadly take-no-prisoners entity that was slowly translated over time to become a protector-guardian type, not only of Japan but of the planet. He’s on our side! Another example is Mr. Lovecraft’s Cthulhu who regularly shows up in humorous and cute toys and Christmas ornaments. If you can’t defeat the monster, declaw it or make it cute. These are not bad options.
34 comments
October 14, 2021 at 3:21 AM
David Godfrey
Various strategies: ignore it, feed it and make it your friend, hide under the bed, run away, try to reason with it, worry about things that will never happen, talk to Doc Spo he knows what to do.
October 14, 2021 at 6:25 AM
Urspo
Lots of strategies! Talking to Dr.Spo is suspect.
October 14, 2021 at 3:45 AM
Dwight W.
The monster is always there with me , anxiety. If I can shrink him small enough to go in a shoe box , he is not able to disrupt my day to day life. Reactions by patients have consequences, (I am here to help you, either by seeing you as an outpatient or by placing you on a psychiatric hold for 72 hours.) I hope your state gives you such power. Your patient is either aware enough to listen to you so you can help him or he isn’t. If he isn’t he needs placed somewhere so he can see his actions are destructive to all or until meds can help. You said out loud , “I am ready for whatever the consequences of this change over My job bring*, I can find another job” All of us are rooting for you. If all the monsters were easily slain , there would be no work for psychiatrists. * This is a very , very loose quote of what you said. *- It is always so easy in my mind to solve other peoples problems, but I can’t do a damn thing with my own . Hugs to you!
October 14, 2021 at 6:26 AM
Urspo
Anxiety makes a good servant but a lousy boss.
One of the meanings behind the word “shrink” is about shrinking bloated complexes like Anxiety down to a dull roar, a warning light to pay attention to, from its in-charge role to react to everything.
October 14, 2021 at 4:25 AM
Debra She Who Seeks
Hugs to you as you make it through this rough patch, Dr Spo.
October 14, 2021 at 6:26 AM
Urspo
Hugs to you too, dearie!
October 14, 2021 at 4:33 AM
Lori Hawkins
It is ‘all too much’ right now. Hugs to you and I hope you have a peaceful day.
October 14, 2021 at 6:27 AM
Urspo
When it is ‘all too much’ it is a signal from the brain to put a lot of it down and not do so much at once.
Today Thursday will not be peaceful but I will get through it as I get through all of them.
October 14, 2021 at 4:55 AM
Todd Gunther
I really hate it when the real monster is inside my mind, say anxiety, and it goes everywhere I go. I can’t put it somewhere so that it is out of sight. The meditations help for a while. I just have to do those exercises more often.
October 14, 2021 at 6:29 AM
Urspo
I tell my folks to stop seeing anxiety as an evil entity needing exorcism. Think of it as an irksome traveling companion who needs to be put in place, listened to, and (most important) not in charge.
October 14, 2021 at 5:07 AM
Sam
I’m sorry your shadow seems to be in all your places right now. Keep your self ready, but let others help you slat, or at least push it down to manageable.
October 14, 2021 at 6:30 AM
Urspo
Oh, I don’t worry about my own Shadows. I am familiar with them and know what to do about them. What makes me anxious is other people’s Shadows, unrecognized and projected out and running amok unchecked.
October 14, 2021 at 5:08 AM
Debbie W.
So sorry to hear about your current difficulties. At least you do have many more tools than most. Small solace, that. Your patient is fortunate to have a concerned doctor, but I only begin to imagine the pressure that is on you. The “whack-a-mole” imagery is perfect. So is Gilda Radner’s: “It’s always something.” I use that one a lot. Take care. .
October 14, 2021 at 6:32 AM
Urspo
At any given time there is what I call ‘patient de jour’: the current patient raising the most fuss and drama. Patients continually threaten in all sorts of ways. . I have a lot of tools and experience (hopefully wisdom too) to get through this one as I get through all of them.
Yes it is always something, which is a nicely put Stoic truism we always have hassles and obstacles. These make life, they aren’t apart from it.
October 14, 2021 at 7:04 AM
Glenda
Well, now I feel concern about you and violent patients. It seems that the violent think that it is more acceptable to hurt people and animals these days.I join in on the group hug for you.
October 14, 2021 at 7:44 AM
Urspo
Truth be told most doctors (and folks in the medical field) have threats made to them on a fairly regular basis. Unhappy patients, not getting what they want, threaten to leave negative reviews, report to the medical board, sue, and in some cases make physical threats.
October 14, 2021 at 7:56 AM
Brian Dean Powers
The transformation of Godzilla into a superhero who protects children was both astonishing and humorous. His battle with Hedorah the smog monster was a comedy epic, with facefuls of hot sludge and Godzilla flying. Unfortunately the big reptile couldn’t fix all the continuity errors.
October 14, 2021 at 8:29 AM
Urspo
This is a common pathway I’ve learned. The completely awful/evil entity slowly evolves to a more complex and sometimes loveable character. I am not ‘big into Vampires” but I hear tell the modern versions are sexy more misunderstood beings. What a change from the Nosferatu days!
October 14, 2021 at 10:13 AM
Old Lurker
Wait. Nosferatu wasn’t sexy? Some people are really into bald guys.
October 14, 2021 at 10:12 AM
Old Lurker
The anxiety monster is chewing on my femur as we speak.
I am guessing that a certain handsome psychiatrist’s fall SAD is also acting up? That cannot help.
October 14, 2021 at 10:46 AM
Urspo
Aye sir, there is some SAD; all the Halloween attempts aren’t helping much this year either.
October 14, 2021 at 10:42 AM
Parnassus
It’s often said that if you can walk away from troubles (as in having an independent income or enough money to retire), they are less stressful. However, you still have to live through the stress; you still are having choices taken away, and are not as much in control of the situation, which most people require for peace of mind.
–Jim
October 14, 2021 at 10:47 AM
Urspo
The more I come to terms with not being in control the better I do
October 14, 2021 at 12:56 PM
Will Jay
Would a prescription for a week in Palm Springs help?
October 14, 2021 at 1:01 PM
Urspo
I am beginning to wonder if it would help; it has a lot of challenges.
There is a part of me that doesn’t want to go. I will go as it is paid-for. Let’s what happens.
October 14, 2021 at 1:46 PM
Paul Brownsey
Ths crystallises something I’ve suspected for a while: The Dread is always lurking, even when you think it isn’t; it just fixes itself on different objects from time to time…
October 14, 2021 at 2:16 PM
Urspo
The challenge is living with The Dread. Like St. Gall and the Swiss bear.
October 14, 2021 at 11:49 PM
Paul Brownsey
Portrayals of sessions with psychiatrists in movies and shows sometimes give us a scene in which the source of The Dread is finally dug down into–something Orrible that happened when you were little, say–and once it’s brought to light it vanishes and all is smiles thereafter. (Weill’s Lady in the Dark, say.) Am I right in thinking that this is not a Jungian view?
October 14, 2021 at 7:51 PM
janiejunebug
My anxiety is not too bad of late. I wish I could help you as you’ve helped me.
Love,
Janie
October 14, 2021 at 8:07 PM
Urspo
You are a dear
Really I don’t need ‘help’; I need to be in this state and let it pass as all states do in time. 🙂
October 15, 2021 at 12:11 AM
Linda Practical Parsimony
I have never seen a nice Godzilla. I hope never to. I suppose I have anxiety. But, that is because other people don’t see dangers, and I have to be ever on guard to keep myself or us, whoever that is, safe. I feel responsible for knowing what is dangerous. Monsters chased me every night for about 17 years when I was young. I awoke terrified and no one in my dream would listen. I think the monsters were my father.
October 15, 2021 at 7:13 AM
Urspo
The monsters in our life often are masked memories of other monstrous events, yes.
October 15, 2021 at 7:27 AM
Robzilla
I hope things get better and life becomes more tranquil soon. That monster you speak of sounds a lot like Trumpism.
October 15, 2021 at 7:45 PM
Urspo
He is one of the main Monsters of the nation.