Every few years (maybe more frequent) I have an urge to write about ghosts. Hallowe’en is a good time to do so, as the holiday is based on the belief spirits are about this night. I think it was Robertson Davies who said about ghosts: “All evidence is against them, while all experience is for them”. I recently read a large minority of Americans believe in ghosts. I remember an interview with a literal ghostbuster who reported not once in his experience has he come across an actual ghost but every so-called hauntings were explained by mundane matters. I was both not surprised and disappointed. More on that later.
What makes us go to ghosts as an explanation for things in the dark? Our wiring has two built-in go-tos:
- We see patterns and make meaning out of the unknown.
- We want to avoid risk.
It’s easy to disregard paranormal interpretations in the daylight but everything changes when we head into that dark basement. Unfamiliar and possibly threatening places kick in our autonomic system to go into survival mode. Few people can go into the woods at night and not become vigilant towards ‘what may be there”. Predators are one thing but something uncanny really gives us the heebie-jeebies.
Speaking as a shrink, when I hear of people experiencing ghosts I wonder if they have mental illness. I see patients all the time who believe they hear voices and see ghosts. In the context of active depression or schizophrenia or drugs, these reports sound like symptoms, not sightings. People with/without mental illness often attribute their encounters with ghosts to ‘being psychic’ or their loved-ones getting into contact with them. This is often sounds like bereavement and loneliness. These ghosts seem conjured up for folks yearning for the company. To quote from ‘The Secret Garden”:
“Does everyone who die become a ghost?
“They’re only ghosts if someone alive is holding onto them”
“This place is haunted!” often ends up having environmental hazards to them. Mr. Mentioned Ghostbuster often finds contaminants like mold or low frequency sounds that cause one to feel ill and perturbe
I think the main reasons why we see ghosts is we want to. Let’s admit it, believing in ghosts is jolly good fun. Ghost stories started from the get-go and they have never gone out of style. We pay money to visit haunted spots and go on ghost tours and see plays and movies with ghosts in them. We want to believe.
Despite all logic and reason I eagerly await October to get out the ghosts. Henrik (the dear!), despite his shortcoming as a proper phantom, is welcome to stay as long he wants. He and his ilk make life fun.
Boo!
Spo-fans: Do you believe ghosts exist? Have you seen a ghost?
41 comments
October 15, 2021 at 2:37 AM
David Godfrey
I have experienced things I can’t explain. Is that a ghost, is a reflection of light, sound, vibration? I don’t know?
I had a client once (I have 12,000 of these stories) that heard voices, he was convinced that the shrinks were drugging the city water supply to suppress the voices, he said if I stopped drinking the water, I would hear the voices. Alas my thirst won out and I still don’t. Sadly when he stopped drinking the water, he was nearly unable to communicate with the people around him, when he drank the water he was very engaging. It was never clear what was safe to drink.
October 15, 2021 at 7:05 AM
Urspo
Poor fellow. The trouble with delusional/paranoid/ ‘inside information’ is it brings little joy to thems in on the know. Sometimes I ask my patient or the arrogant man on the street ‘does believing this bring you comfort?”. It seldom does.
October 15, 2021 at 3:21 AM
Dwight W.
Ghosts , of a classical nature I have seen none. They must find more interesting people to play with!
October 15, 2021 at 7:06 AM
Urspo
Ghosts seem awfully picky about to whom they manifest. Good for them.
October 15, 2021 at 3:27 AM
Moving with Mitchell
First, those Halloween stones are wonderful. Are they yours?
I don’t believe in ghosts but I won’t rule out different forms of “energy” and I won’t rule it in either.
October 15, 2021 at 7:08 AM
Urspo
hohoho
lots of folks say they don’t believe in ghosts or a god yet find a sort-of substitute that is a ghost/god in all but name.
October 15, 2021 at 4:40 AM
Lori Hawkins
When we were still in the old hospital (100 plus years old) I saw a couple of things that I couldn’t explain. A lot of people said it was haunted. My office was in the old TB sanitarium so more likely poor air quality and mold.
October 15, 2021 at 7:09 AM
Urspo
Your point is valid. Most haunted places have dark histories to them.
Robertson Davies also said ghosts were the spirits of the dead lingering wanting Justice , they want to be heard. They don’t go on as they are still stuck at the injustice has been done to me stage.
October 15, 2021 at 6:00 AM
Debra She Who Seeks
Oh, I know ghosts exist. Her Royal Highness the cat has been haunting me for years!
October 15, 2021 at 7:10 AM
Urspo
Cat ghosts! Them’s the worst!
October 15, 2021 at 6:19 AM
Parnassus
A few minutes before opening this post, The Secret Garden popped into my head for no apparent or connected reason. Explain that, Dr. Rational!
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Have you seen Gian-Carlo Menotti’s The Medium? It’s a must!
–Jim
October 15, 2021 at 7:10 AM
Urspo
Synchronicity, that’s what.
I remember seeing The Medium once; I recall it was great fun; I want to see it again sometime, yes.
October 15, 2021 at 6:34 AM
Mistress Borghese
I love your little collection of finery above! And yes I do believe in ghosts and believe they are here for a few reasons. I have lived in two places with ghost or some kind of spirit, one being my current place. But things just one day up and stopped. I suspect even the ghost may have been appalled by my sexual frolics.
October 15, 2021 at 7:12 AM
Urspo
Have you read Oscar Wilde’s ghost story parody? The basic plot I recall is a respectable ghost is perturbed when an awful family moves into his house and he has to get them exorcised before he goes balmly.
October 15, 2021 at 7:25 AM
Debbie W.
Did you paint those Halloween-themed stones? They are amazing! And wouldn’t they give your HOA a fright? (pun is fully intended) I’m not sure I believe in ghosts per se, but I do think that departed loved ones can send us signs upon occasion. Have you seen the 2017 movie “A Ghost Story”? It’s so unusual that it defies description, but it has definitely initiated some interesting conversations in my household.
October 15, 2021 at 7:31 AM
Urspo
No I did not paint these stones (worse luck!) nor have I heard/seen the movie. I will have a look-see at your recommendation.
October 15, 2021 at 7:30 AM
Robzilla
I don’t know if I believe in ghosts, but this week I keep having this thought pop into my head where I introduce myself to my new coworkers at an orientation meeting. I hope that’s a great sign of things to come.
October 15, 2021 at 7:31 AM
Urspo
Let us hope so! You are on my mind this week for this reason.
October 15, 2021 at 11:01 AM
Old Lurker
I cannot imagine Henrik is pleased with this entry. I hope he does not complain to the Board.
I do not want to believe in ghosts. Ghosts mean that spirits exist, and spirits mean that either reincarnation or an afterlife of eternal hellfire are in store. I wish I was joking when I write that either of those possibilities terrify me. (Oh come on. Even if Fabulon exists, there is zero probability I am ending up there.)
October 15, 2021 at 11:05 AM
Urspo
The notion of ghosts challenges both people of faith and them without. If there are ghosts, why are allowed to stick around, and if there is no soul, then why would you believe in ghosts?
I wish Henrik would complain; I would like to see him with some spunk some courage to do something more ghostlike/assertive.
October 15, 2021 at 12:54 PM
Will Jay
No ghosts at my house since I instituted the rule that they would have to help with the house cleaning.
October 15, 2021 at 2:56 PM
Urspo
that made me smile, thank you.
October 15, 2021 at 2:10 PM
Gigi Rambles
Do I believe in ghosts? I’m not sure but I did have one experience that makes me convinced that our loved ones might hang around for a little while after dying.
The day before my dad’s funeral was a long one. I was staying at a friend’s parents house – as they lived close to where the funeral would be held. After I turned out the light and nestled in, I sensed a light over my right shoulder. I sat up and looked around and saw that the room was pitch black. There wasn’t any light coming in through the windows, under the door from the hall. There was no light of any kind. I turned out the light and laid back down and again sensed that light over my shoulder and it stayed there until I feel asleep. To this day I am convinced that it was my dad (I guess it could have been my mom, but I strongly feel it was him) trying to comfort me in my sorrow.
October 15, 2021 at 2:56 PM
Urspo
A testimony!
Yours is a common one; History is filled with similar.
Thank you for sharing this.
October 15, 2021 at 2:25 PM
Glenda
No, I don’t believe in ghosts. I believe buildings or rooms can absorb sadness or fear. I have gone into places that just have a sad atmosphere about them.
October 15, 2021 at 2:58 PM
Urspo
I concur on that: some places seems happy, other not.
Have you ever read “The Haunting of Hill house?” :
No live organism can continue for long to exist sanely under conditions of absolute reality; even larks and katydids are supposed, by some, to dream. Hill House, not sane, stood by itself against its hills, holding darkness within; it had stood for eighty years and might stand for eighty more. Within, walls continued upright, bricks met neatly, floors were firm, and doors were sensibly shut; silence lay steadily against the wood and stone of Hill House, and whatever walked there, walked alone.”
October 15, 2021 at 2:56 PM
janiejunebug
I have never seen a ghost, which is not surprising since I don’t believe in them. I have inanimate objects move a little only when I’m very high. My ex-husband heard voices. He had a spirit guide named Domo and then something after that; I can’t remember all of it. Things got really bad when he believed he was a god and then believed he was God and spoke of our son as if he were Jesus. I can assure you I was not married to God and my son is definitely not Jesus. It all got old.
Love,
Janie
October 15, 2021 at 2:59 PM
Urspo
oh the pain.
I sort of like the Catherine O’Hara approach as seen in the movie “Beetlejuice” where she addresses ‘you dead people’ as upstarts you have to abase in good-NYC style fracas.
October 15, 2021 at 4:55 PM
Tony D
I do not “believe” in ghosts because there is no reason to do so. They are not possible if you “believe” in the laws of physics! What I do believe in is the wild possibilities that the right brain comes up with. Though I don’t believe in ghosts, I refuse to watch horror films about them because when I turn out the lights after brushing my teeth at night, my hippocampus goes into overdrive and I am forced to sleep with the lights on.
The brain hates things it cannot explain. Sometimes we just don’t know what causes the “bump in the night”. But that is no reason to assign it to a dead being. I prefer to live with the mystery of not-knowing. That is infinitely more delicious.
October 15, 2021 at 7:42 PM
Urspo
One of my favorite quotes ever is from Marie Curie:
“Nothing in life is to be feared, but understood.”
October 15, 2021 at 5:25 PM
Pipistrello
I don’t really know if I fall into the believe it or not camp for I don’t really think about it but I had a spooky experience once in an olde house hotel in England. Rational me says I don’t believe but try telling that to my lizard brain sometimes. I’d rather not watch ghost stories because I can tend toward an overactive imagination and ghost stories as a kid could frighten me properly!
For fun telly, there is an English show called ‘Ghosts’ which includes some plague victims who live in the haunted house’s basement and are experts on the boiler therein and a caveman. We loved it!
October 15, 2021 at 7:43 PM
Urspo
You are not the first who have mentioned ‘Ghosts” to me; I ought to have a look-see.
When I hear “Ghosts” I think if Henrik Ibsen’s “Ghosts”; one if my favorite plays ever.
October 15, 2021 at 7:32 PM
Richard Portman
Most of my ghosts come from bereavement.
I don’t believe in ghosts. As if they would care what i believe.
So yes i do believe there might be ghosts. That is not the point. I don’t see them and i like it that way.
I keep my memories and my observances and my superstitions.
My world has ghosts, but it is none of my business.
When i do find out, is not like i am going to send a postcard.
October 15, 2021 at 7:44 PM
Urspo
I hear tell in Asia there is something called “Ghost month”. It is not clear to me if people really believe ghosts come out at this time, or it is more like Halloween time fun.
October 15, 2021 at 8:33 PM
Pat
Sure, I read a few Casper the friendly dead child comic books, but other wise ghost tales never interested me. So it is not a question of believe or not believe.
October 16, 2021 at 8:30 AM
Urspo
I am always intrigued to meet someone who is uninterested in ghosts; they are rare creatures. Most either believe or are adamant in their disbelief.
October 15, 2021 at 10:09 PM
wcs
I believe (I don’t really like that word) that ghosts, like gods, devils, angels, and alien visitors, spring from the minds of man.
October 16, 2021 at 8:31 AM
Urspo
Many scientists and psychologist think similar.
Have you read Carl Sagans’ book “The Demon-Haunted world”?
October 16, 2021 at 9:52 PM
wcs
Oh yes, many years ago now. Perhaps it’s time to read it again!
October 17, 2021 at 9:12 AM
Sassybear
The only spirits I believe in come in bottles…
October 22, 2021 at 6:02 PM
Robert
I believe there is more we don’t ‘know’ about. Maybe ghosts exist in this realm 👻