The dog walks are slowing down sad to say. Harper does little nowadays but sleep. She is deaf and her eyesight is not very good so she isn’t aware of the usual cues that get her going for a walk. Most of the time I have to fetch her to let her know it’s time for a walk. Seeing the lease would get her up quickly to an excited dash to the door. Now she slowly rises, if she rises at all. Sometimes she would rather sleep.
The days are cooler and darker, which is good for the paws, but not for the vision. Our dog walks have become short, more ‘to the point’ as it were, and often she aborts them. She will stop, look up at me, and turn around as if to say she’s had a enough. Usually this is because she wants that post-peripatetic treat. I think she now just wants to go back to bed.
Her habits have altered. Normally I can predict where she will go, and have bag at-the-ready. Now she sort of slows down he gait, stoops a bit, and lets out a series of dumps while still walking. This is a nuisance as scraping the sidewalk still leaves spots I’m certain not appreciated by the neighbors.
At times I feel she only goes on walks to appease me; left to her druthers she wouldn’t go. Happily there are times she cues me with her eyes she wants to go for a walk. I always honor this, hoping she will keep this going. Her preference now is to go into the back yard – more out of boredom than necessity. Like the Rum Tum Tugger she is always on the wrong side of every door. It is distracting and annoying to be continually getting up from my armchair to allow this, but I am glad she can signal so her wants.*
I knew these walks would one day come to an end. I am going to miss them. Until them I will take them when they happen until they are no more.
*In the cooler months the screen door can stay open she can come and go as she pleases.
37 comments
September 22, 2022 at 11:11 AM
Sam
Sweet Harper. My daughter is in the other end of spectrum with 5 month old dog and feeling overwhelmed. I know they’ll eventually get the bond, but so sad as their liveliness and vitality is so fleeting. Just love on her as much as possible.
September 22, 2022 at 12:17 PM
Urspo
These two times are bookends of the price we pay for loving a dog.
September 22, 2022 at 11:14 AM
David Godfrey
Enjoy each walk, LOVE
September 22, 2022 at 12:17 PM
Urspo
Yes, and bring plenty of bags
September 22, 2022 at 11:18 AM
Old Lurker
I am glad Harper continues to do her duty and take you for walks, but overall this is a very sad entry. Please give her some pets for us.
September 22, 2022 at 12:18 PM
Urspo
It is a sad entry about a sad matter – an inevitable one.
September 22, 2022 at 12:12 PM
Jenn
An aging pet is such a poignant thing. I get it, but from a cat perspective. When someone loves you and depends on you unconditionally, it’s such a special bond. Cherish your sweet aging girl. Hugs to both of you. – Jenn
September 22, 2022 at 12:19 PM
Urspo
There is no sorrow like that of the loss of a pet.
I’ve had many patients more distraught over the passing of their puss or pooch than their relations. They often feel ashamed they have more feelings for this than say their aunt.
September 22, 2022 at 12:48 PM
Will Jay
You are wise to savor each walk whatever their nature and quality. Lost both beagles this past winter-spring. One was 14.5 and the other was estimated at 16.5. I always admonished them not to break my heart, but they did anyway because they were born to break my heart. Special snuggles for Harper please.
September 22, 2022 at 2:28 PM
Urspo
It is the price we pay for loving someone; we miss them terribly when they are gone.
September 22, 2022 at 1:04 PM
Debra She Who Seeks
Poor old Harper is in the twilight years of her life. Give her all the treats she wants.
September 22, 2022 at 2:29 PM
Urspo
She certainly gets plenty. By now she’s trained us both to put out something any time we are near the pantry. As she is deaf she no longer hears this across the house to come a-running
September 22, 2022 at 1:21 PM
Glenda
Very sorry to hear this about Harper. She is a good dog.
September 22, 2022 at 2:30 PM
Urspo
Yes, she is. She’s been and still is a marvelous mutt.
September 22, 2022 at 2:24 PM
Moving with Mitchell
So sorry. It’s not easy.
September 22, 2022 at 2:30 PM
Urspo
No, not even when it is expected and prepared for.
September 22, 2022 at 3:19 PM
DwightW.
I think everything changes over time. What shape are her teeth in. I’d suggest a hard dog food if she has the chewing power. That way turds will be turds. I don’t doubt that this is hard on you , but as long as she is drinking water and eating she has “miles to go before she sleeps” -good luck Doc . From the number of posts everyone loves Harper.
September 22, 2022 at 4:10 PM
Urspo
Happily he eating is good and drinking good too. She still loves the treats. Sleeping a lot seems to be from need not pain.
September 22, 2022 at 4:09 PM
Debbie W.
It is sad to see our animal companions age. They soldier on, and I respect their quiet acceptance of what is. Their example is good to learn from. I become way too attached to my animals, though, and dread the time I have to let them go.
September 22, 2022 at 4:20 PM
Urspo
I recall the day I got her, thinking “some day this dog is going to grow old and die on me, and that day will be a terrible day indeed” but this is the price we pay for loving something. It is worth it.
September 22, 2022 at 6:53 PM
Linda Practical Parsimony
This was a very sad post. All my pets died a violent and sudden death, so I don’t know how old age in an animal would affect me.
September 23, 2022 at 6:47 AM
Urspo
Most of mine lived long lives with somewhat knarly ends. Sometimes I think a sudden death would be better for the both of us.
September 22, 2022 at 6:57 PM
Jennifer
As you say, loving a dog is worth the price we pay for it, but just barely. Such heartbreak…
Enjoy each day with sweet Harper. What a lucky, and loved, girl she is.
September 23, 2022 at 6:47 AM
Urspo
Aye, I shall.
September 22, 2022 at 6:59 PM
Dark Robzilla
I’m so sorry this is happening. Please give her some extra hugs and treats.
September 23, 2022 at 6:48 AM
Urspo
It is part of life. I will give her extra hugs indeed.
September 23, 2022 at 6:08 AM
BadNoteB
The inevitable bitter-sweet stage of the life cycle with our 4-footed family members, for certain. I vividly remember the myriad emotions associated with palliative care of our beloved schnauzer and fully empathize with what you are experiencing with Harper. Hugs to both of you..
September 23, 2022 at 6:48 AM
Urspo
Growing up I had four schnauzers; I know your feelings on this topic.
September 23, 2022 at 7:19 AM
Alicia
We have an older dog as well, she’s 14 and a little Shih-poo. She too has let us know that while she still loves her walks she can’t do them daily and they have to be much shorter. Harper sounds like a little sweetheart. Don’t they just bring so much joy into our lives?
September 23, 2022 at 8:32 AM
Urspo
Indeed they do. I thank you for sharing yours with me.
September 23, 2022 at 7:34 PM
Richard Portman
I’m thinking about Lilly, a dog that lives near me. She is kind of an old time dog. She stays with her human. My neighbor.
This dog probably has dementia. She lays around on her blanket and drags herself out everyday to bark at the neighbors.
We can’t stand to put her down because she is a good dog.
September 24, 2022 at 1:23 PM
Urspo
Yes, I suspect Harper is showing some signs of dementia as well. poor pooch .
September 24, 2022 at 5:38 AM
Lori Hawkins
It is so hard to watch our fur friends aging. All we can do is make sure they’re comfortable, give them tons of love and make sure they know we’re there.
September 24, 2022 at 1:23 PM
Urspo
That’s spot-on!
September 25, 2022 at 3:47 AM
Hugh W. Roberts
My dog, Toby, is getting to the same stage, although he still likes his morning walks, but not the afternoon ones. He doesn’t run around with his younger pals anymore, either, but still enjoys the treats offered after a morning’s play.
September 25, 2022 at 9:21 PM
Ron
So sad. At the end my Horace couldn’t control his bladder. When I came downstairs in the morning to take him out he would look up at me as if to say he was sorry. I never scolded him, it was easy enough to clean the floor. Then one morning I came down and he couldn’t get up, he was limp as a rag doll. And yet he still was able to look at me with his eyes as if to tell me he was ready to go after sixteen years of faithful companionship. I gently lifted him up and took him immediately to the vet to end his suffering. This was the only time in my life I have ever cried over a death. I’ve never had a pet since. That was in 1998. I’ve never stopped missing him. The only way I got through the loss was that either someday we will be reunited or when I die there will be total oblivion and the pain of his loss will finally end.
September 26, 2022 at 8:51 PM
Richard Portman
That is so sad. Thank you for telling us.