Set limits for your apps.
This one has a merit. We are all guilty of being on some app for awhile, only to realize vast times have gone by without us realizing it. This isn’t itself ‘bad’ but let’s be honest. Most of the time we don’t come off of hours on Facebook or Tick-tock or one of that crowd with the feeling we’ve spent quality time and feel jolly for doing so. Rather there is a sense of regret and having ‘wasted time’. Indeed there is often a sense of being swindled. What comes to mind is Gerda in Mr. Anderson’s tale “The Snow Queen” who gets enchanted to stay a short while with a two-faced witch until Gerda connects the dots she’s been enchanted and breaks away to get back on her journey.*
Apps are consciously designed to keep us going; they are both clever and diabolical to do so. People are connecting the dots on this stratagem and are trying to curb time on their apps. Fat chance of that. Few have the conscious wherewithal to take the Mae West approach ‘they could have turned it off.”** Rather than trying to attempt so-called ‘willpower’ it is best to put impediments and limitations on app use. For example: taking them off your phone or putting them not on the front page but in a file that requires some scrolling and opening to get at them. Turning off notifications is another good thing to de-sensitize oneself to respond to signals to go have a look-see.
The full recommendation of #26 includes setting a time limit on your app use. It suggests using some setting on the iPhone to tell you parental-like to turn off the TV and outside and play now. Urs Truly has on his iPhone an alarm that goes off at 9:30 PM telling him to knock it off and put down the phone and go do your stretches and read a book for pending sleep’s sake. Sometimes I actually do this, but not often.
Time-sucking apps may be best dealt with by eliminating them from the phone entirely. When it comes to endless needy cellphones, more efficacious than the advice of Mae West is the Voice of Binky:
It’s a bit harsh but it works.
*The Board of Directors Here at Spo-reflections wished me to expurgate this literary reference on the grounds it was tangential and got in the way of the point. Indeed, they drew a parallel I was more or less doing the same thing viz. keeping my audience away from the topic at hand. Oops.
**One more reference before The-You-Know-Who come after me. Mae West (the dear!) once had a raunchy radio programme. Sumptuary types called to complain about the contents. When the press asked Ms. West about this, she replied “Well, they could have turned it off”.
21 comments
September 23, 2022 at 1:42 PM
David Godfrey
When I bought a new phone, there was not enough memory on my old phone for the app to transfer files to the new phone. The guy asked if he could delete FB and Insta from my phone and transfer the rest. I could get FB and Instragram back anytime, but I have chosen not to. My phone is a Facebook free zone, large parts of the my life and the world should be.
September 23, 2022 at 1:55 PM
Urspo
Sensible fellow. I am not so willed as to d/c the app from my phone. It is in a file on the ‘third swipe” making it a bit of a task to open it, which gives me time enough to question going there.
September 23, 2022 at 2:15 PM
Old Lurker
I wonder how much I will regret spending so much time on blogs, ogling handsome bloggers? It is clearly a problem now.
September 23, 2022 at 2:41 PM
Urspo
It is hoped you enjoy reading blogs and don’t feels you’ve wasted time /regret doing so. If you do then why do so? Blogging should be fun, not a means to get people on line to see adds like FB.
September 23, 2022 at 5:20 PM
Old Lurker
I don’t know whether I enjoy reading blogs, but I get sporadic, unpredictable hits of dopamine. Does that count?
September 23, 2022 at 3:37 PM
DwightW.
Apps you say apps, what are apps ? 🙊🙉🙈
September 24, 2022 at 1:18 PM
Urspo
They are sort of like 1-900 numbers but more costly.
September 23, 2022 at 4:41 PM
Dark Robzilla
I couldn’t agree more.
Signed,
Someone that uses Twitter way too much sometimes.
September 24, 2022 at 1:19 PM
Urspo
When Mr. Tesla was thinking of buying Twitter, I closed my account and removed it from my phone. It feels a great relief, like closing the door to the fifth level of hell.
September 23, 2022 at 5:45 PM
Linda Practical Parsimony
My signature–
Self-control is tiring. Arranging your life so that you confront fewer temptations is a wise thing altogether.
So no apps to visit on my phone.
September 24, 2022 at 1:19 PM
Urspo
Sensible woman!
September 23, 2022 at 7:13 PM
Robert
Acknowledging my mild obsessive behaviour I replaced two word puzzle apps that tracked and rewarded my participation with daily Wordle and Octordle. I choose to do them or not without guilt. Hooray for me! My app sinkholes are Instagram and Twitter. Scrolling through pictures of arts, building interiors, architecture, hot men remind me to retrieve paint brushes and paper from the garage when the car is next out of the way.
September 24, 2022 at 1:20 PM
Urspo
I have never been on Instagram; I hear it is a big time-sucker. Also someone recently tampered with it, as the howl on line about it even I hear about.
September 23, 2022 at 8:41 PM
Debra She Who Seeks
I mainly use my iPhone to make and receive phone calls and texts. I know, I know, it’s like buying a fully-loaded Ferrari and then just putt-putt-putting down to the corner grocery store. I do check my Weather Network app a few times every day, though. We Canadians are obsessed about the weather, you know.
September 24, 2022 at 1:21 PM
Urspo
I see by my weather apps this weekend weather is all the talk up there, particularly in the Maritimes. I hope there is enough storm chips to go around.
September 24, 2022 at 4:41 AM
Lori Hawkins
I have FB and Instagram on my phone but I really don’t check them often. I’m one of those people that actually puts my phone down and may not check it for hours if not days when I’m not working. Some get quite annoyed by this.
September 24, 2022 at 1:21 PM
Urspo
Good for you!
I try to practice this myself. So far not much progress but I am pleased for any time it isn’t in my hands.
September 24, 2022 at 6:20 AM
Paul Brownsey
I’ve been trying to find something to download that, while severely restricting my time on apps in the main, shutting down the computer for three weeks if I exceed two minutes max, will nevertheless have a device installed to allow me absolutely unlimited time on Spo-Reflections. No success yet, though.
(Do I win the toffee apple for Sook* of the Week?)
* Scots word meaning sycophant, crawler, toady, fawner-and-flatterer. A school classroom will usually contain one.
September 24, 2022 at 1:22 PM
Urspo
Sook? What a great word! Thank you. do I owe you anything?
September 24, 2022 at 1:28 PM
Paul Brownsey
A sook would not reckon you owed him anything. (“Sook” is Scots for “suck”–a sook being someone who sucks up to another.)
September 24, 2022 at 4:19 PM
Urspo
I suspect thems in Scotland have quite the collection of local words and terms I would enjoy using.