C.S. Lewis wrote Heaven is a place ‘what is not music is silence” while Hell is ‘The Kingdom of noise”. The devils hope in the end to shout down the quiet sonorous truths of Heaven. Mr. Lewis has a good point. Noise pollution and nasty types hollering lies at the top of their lungs are abundant these days. One can almost smell the stink of sulfur.
I was listening to a podcast the other day about sounds and noises are associated with serenity and which ones are associated with agitation. “Misophonia” is a term about people becoming readily angry or upset upon hearing certain sounds. Urs Truly doesn’t have this – or so he thought – until the podcast talked about something called ‘autonomous sensory meridian response’ or ‘ASMR’. I’ve never heard of such a thing and I wish to high heaven I hadn’t. ASMR is the sound of someone whispering rather than talking. Apparently a percentage of people who hear such feel all warm and fuzzy inside; they are quite soothed by such. There is a whole cult-like following on The Tube of Yous where millions tune in to hear someone fold towels or tidy up while whispering. The podcast went on to report while most people are not reactive to ASMR there a few find it annoying. Indeed there is a percentage who bristle misophonia-like to the sound of whispering.
I am not a violent person. So far as I remember I have never hit anyone. I was amazed and shocked within five seconds of hearing ASMR-like whispering my emotions explode like a piece of machinery that has been given one once of pressure too much and I want to reach through the screen and slap the whisperer into next week. What a reaction! And so quick and angrily! Part of me is fascinated but this and another part is horrified knowing how noxious this is for me.
I am wracking my memory Freud-like trying to recall if there was any childhood trauma that had whispering to it to make this so. No such luck. ASMR (whether good or bad reaction) seems to touch on nerves yet to be understood. Thems with misophonia have a hard time avoiding the sounds that make them bristle. Happily I can avoid my nemesis as no one around me whispers, ever. Heaven and Hell neither contain any whispering so I am OK no matter where I go, provided the demons don’t whisper things through all eternity.
Do you bristle at certain sounds?
What does whispering evoke in you?
41 comments
September 26, 2022 at 1:13 PM
jefferyrn
Seems there were whisperings in Rose Mary’s Baby. Whispered secrets.
September 26, 2022 at 1:14 PM
Urspo
Secrets are OK for whispering. Folding towels or instructions how to paint are not OK for whispering – unless you want me to slap you silly to speak up. ho ho ho
September 26, 2022 at 1:37 PM
larrymuffin
It does not evoke anything in me. Whispering is just that a whisper. I lead a simple life.
September 26, 2022 at 2:09 PM
Urspo
Lucky fellow! Apparently for some whispering make them mad or soothed.
September 26, 2022 at 2:56 PM
Debra She Who Seeks
I’ve heard of those recorded whispering videos before and did check one out once. I didn’t find it particularly soothing, but rather irritating so I didn’t listen long. However, it did not induce a rage reaction in me. What I find soothing to listen to is birdsong, nature noises like waves, very gentle instrumental music, etc.
September 26, 2022 at 3:02 PM
Urspo
Yes, most people do. I think one of the reasons whispering makes some people see red (like me) is it sounds not right, not natural. The voice is off, and implies someone is near – too near in fact. Up to no good that’s certain.
September 26, 2022 at 3:25 PM
Jenn
I agree with you on the whispery recordings- can’t stand them. I like natural sounds in the background- occurring naturally, not on a recording of some kind. One particularly warm, fuzzy sound for me is that of the furnace clicking on. It’s a childhood thing. -Jenn
September 26, 2022 at 3:35 PM
Urspo
I have a similar memory of the radiators coming on in my grandparent’s home; it felt like warmth all over. 🙂
September 26, 2022 at 3:47 PM
Debbie W.
That whispering doesn’t make me angry, but I definitely don’t feel soothed by it. In fact, I have to fight to urge to ask them to speak up. Very annoying!
May I second Jenn’s love of the sound of the heat coming on? That’s one of my favorites. Something about it is so comforting and cozy.
September 26, 2022 at 4:36 PM
Urspo
Another testimony! Thank you for sharing such.
My father would grumble when the heat came on as this portended costs.
September 26, 2022 at 4:57 PM
Old Lurker
You are not a violent person, except for Wednesday slaps.
How exciting to find a new psychological trigger to explore! After decades of Stoic self-improvement we all thought you were practically perfect in every way, but now here is something new to work on.
September 27, 2022 at 12:20 PM
Urspo
It is my Achille’s heel. Let’s see if anyone takes advantage. Happily The Board never speaks below 20 decibels.
September 26, 2022 at 5:15 PM
David Godfrey
Well as I get older, more and more people whisper, or is that just me? No particular sounds that set me off. A phrase, “there is something I want to talk with you about” makes my blood run cold, related to my mother when she was mad.
September 26, 2022 at 7:40 PM
Richard Portman
Ehh? What’s that you say, sonny?
September 27, 2022 at 12:21 PM
Urspo
I concur anything starting with “I need to talk to you” usually means trouble, regardless of the volume.
September 26, 2022 at 5:19 PM
Dark Robzilla
Whispering is annoying. It’s like the people doing it are cowards. They can’t wait until the person it’s about is away so they can speak in normal tones, or they won’t say it to that person’s face.
Nails across a chalkboard is so annoying it’ll make me stop in my tracks.
September 26, 2022 at 9:28 PM
Urspo
there’s research done on the ‘why’ to nails on the chalkboard. Apparently it’s the right combination of Hertz to press most people’s revolution.
September 26, 2022 at 6:05 PM
Jennifer
ASMR noises (some of them, anyway, certainly not all) give me the weirdest tingling sensation down my spine and at the base of my skull. I don’t think whispering does it for me, though.
September 26, 2022 at 9:29 PM
Urspo
A testimonial! You are moved by ASMR
September 26, 2022 at 6:37 PM
Linda Practical Parsimony
I will have to check out these sounds. The sound that drives me crazy is the sound of styrofoam. Yes, it is noisy when it is a strofoam cooler against the walker in the car or anything. The car vibrations making the styrofoam hit/scratch against whatever. Tommy does not care at all even if he hears it which usually he does not. DRIVES ME TO DISTRACTION.
September 26, 2022 at 9:30 PM
Urspo
My mother could not stand the sound of Styrofoam; it was her misophonia.
September 26, 2022 at 7:32 PM
Richard Portman
Whispering is annoying and these ASMR videos are annoying and pretentious.
I had a conversation today with my neighbor. She is hard of hearing in these past few years. But today we met again and exchanged greetings. It is always all smiles because we like each other and we have seen some things.
But she really is getting hard of hearing. I would say her hearing is impaired.
It might be something that hearing-aids could help, but she doesn’t have a lot of money, and she is stubborn in her own way.
Or maybe after a lifetime of listening to bullshit,
she is enjoying a little break.
Sometimes I enjoy listening nature audio recordings and soundscapes.
But i am skeptical of this ASMR they act like they are the first people who ever heard anything.
September 26, 2022 at 9:31 PM
Urspo
Thems not ‘moved’ by whispering soft talk find the whole ASMR a mystery.
September 26, 2022 at 7:39 PM
Mountain Dweller
I react very badly to sudden loud noises.
September 26, 2022 at 9:30 PM
Urspo
Most people do 🙂
September 26, 2022 at 10:13 PM
wcs
TV whispers are the worst. They’re as loud as talking and they annoy the heck out of me.
September 27, 2022 at 12:21 PM
Urspo
Best to turn off the TV and turn it out of doors.
September 27, 2022 at 12:57 AM
BadNoteB
I have no patience with whispering unless the lights are low and it’s LOML suggesting naked reindeer games. My biggest peeve is a-holes mumbling under their breath, which whispering can often be mistaken for. That’s several notches below passive-aggressive behavior in my book. Speak up or shut up!
I bristle at the sound of inflated balloons rubbing together or against anything solid. That noise never fails to make my skin crawl.
September 27, 2022 at 12:22 PM
Urspo
Aye, that is a common sound to make many cringe.
September 27, 2022 at 1:28 AM
Robert
I was amazed to learn there’s more recordings than just ‘white noise’ to help one relax or sleep; ‘green noise’, ‘blue noise’. I found ‘brown noise’ most beneficial.
September 27, 2022 at 12:23 PM
Urspo
On my iphone is an app with ambience noises and there are maybe 6 to 8 ‘colors’ of sounds. I forget what sets them apart. I suspect it’s the mixture of Hertz.
September 27, 2022 at 4:08 AM
Terrill
This made me laugh aloud (emphasis on the ‘aloud’). I have always had a bad reaction to whispering. I’m not sure if it is the sibilance, the indistinct forming of words, the low volume or a particular combination of all three. Though not as violent a reaction, the painter Bob Ross (a perfectly pleasant seeming person) grates on my nerves in the same way, with him it was a more gradual build up of irritation rather than immediate DEFCON 1. ASMR takes my reaction to a new and surprising level of instant anger.
September 27, 2022 at 12:23 PM
Urspo
A testimony!
I heard Mr. Ross paint – briefly. I too found his prosody and volume very upsetting and evoked anger.
September 27, 2022 at 11:15 AM
gb
When I was an airport screener and someone would mutter nasty personal complaints at me, sometimes obscene, I’d pretend I was hard of hearing and insist
that they speak louder. Rarely were they brave enough to be loudly rude and crude. Whispering has always seemed rude to me.
September 27, 2022 at 12:24 PM
Urspo
Good for you!
Whispering is often p/a that way.
September 27, 2022 at 8:18 PM
DwightW.
I have a friend who,isn’t all there -but people chewing food and eating in front of him , as on a subway makes him homicidal. Possibly with their mouth open
September 28, 2022 at 6:53 AM
Urspo
How others eat (esp. the sound) seems to be the main matter that makes men mad.
September 27, 2022 at 9:12 PM
Linda Practical Parsimony
I listened to a few seconds of several of the whispering videos. It seemed they were women who tried to look and sound sexy. I had to leave.
September 28, 2022 at 6:54 AM
Urspo
LOL. I heard men and women, young and old, and there was nothing sexy about any of them. Indeed I wanted to slap them all silly. What a trigger to rage!
October 4, 2022 at 9:27 PM
Richard Portman
Try listening to a dark and stormy night on yu tub. I like this one because it has nice sounds of rain. Also it has wailing sounds of some werewolf or something. I like listening to these stories sometimes when i can’t sleep.
October 16, 2022 at 5:47 AM
Sassybear
I am once again behind on blogs and am catching up on all this weekend. Once again, I could not comment on the last dozen posts, so this is the first one I could respond to.
I hate the sound of whispering. It evokes the sense that someone is telling secrets. They shouldn’t be or talking about me or discussing bad news they don’t want me to hear. Jeffrey has a terrible habit of whispering when he talks to me in the car or in the house about someone or some thing that he wouldn’t want others hearing, but it’s always just him and me and there’s no way anyone else could hear it so it dries me crazy.
Another sound I absolutely detest is the sound of people chewing food. I can’t handle it and I have to block it out or drown it out with some other sound.
And there are a few others, that send chills up my spine: the sound of a rake dragged across pavement; babies crying; the sound of people walking in flip-flops; music blaring from other people’s car; and the sound of anyone screaming, or moaning in pain.