Sleep with your phone in a different room (and buy an alarm clock).
Insomnia is a frequent ‘chief complaint’ that gets folks to see me. Insomnia is roughly defined as ‘ not getting the sleep you want at the time you want it.’* It’s my task to find the reason(s) that relate to the insomnia. Insomnia is often a symptom of something like pain, depression, or anxiety; treat these conditions and sleep improves. Regardless of a medical matter most folks with insomnia do things that mar a good night’s sleep. Get these addressed and they will sleep better.
The number one culprit contributing to poor sleep is ‘techie toys in the bedroom’. People in bed stare wide-eyed at bright screens which mar the melatonin cycle and stimulate their brains just when they ought not to be doing so. At the other end folks wake in the morning and immediately grab the phone. This mars sleep in the anticipation of waking up to see what you missed.
Thus, the number one recommendation to improve sleep is to remove the cellphone from the bedroom.
You would think I was asking folks to chop of their arms.
A frequent recommendation to folks complaining they can’t get up and out of bed in the morning is to have them set a loud alarm clock in the kitchen so they are obliged to get their butts out of bed to go turn off the ruckus. Once out of bed they may keep going rather than returning back to bed.
I don’t lead by example; I sleep with my phone. My phone serves as my pager. If summoned at 3AM I need to hear the phone ring. If I didn’t have this I would make it a point to turn off my phone every 10PM and not turn it on until after doing my morning ablutions. I send and receive good morning texts. All too often I wake eager to get to them. I also look to see if my latest entry posted properly and are there any comments – not good for sleeping well.
The desire to enough sleep seldom surpasses the willingness to put the phone away. Rather, patients want sleeping pills to knock them out like a club to the head in a Warner Brothers cartoon. These sort of drugs seldom work well or for long and they don’t address the contributory factors of insomnia. Our brains are not computers that turn on and off with a switch. They are more like jumbo jets that need time to descend to the ground. Getting into bed should be the last step in an hour-long routine of turning down the lights and life in general – including ‘no cell phone use’ after 9PM.
Just try getting people to do this.
Tip #38 has a lot of data to support its worth. It could improve sleep – and life – dramatically if only people would do it.
Do you sleep with your cellphone?
*Sometimes people convey they are getting enough sleep, but it’s done at hours they don’t want. In the old days we used to fix this but nowadays the approach is better to adjust life to the hours you are awake and sleeping.
37 comments
February 7, 2023 at 4:11 AM
DwightW.
I do sleep with my phone in a different room , my dogs require early maintenance so mornings are not an issue. I am lucky enough to be able to nap every day.
February 7, 2023 at 6:55 AM
Urspo
lucky man to nap daily!
Insomnia is not a matter when you aren’t required to wake or sleep at a particular time.
February 7, 2023 at 4:20 AM
Richard
Hey, Mr Spo, put the gun down and back off. Deja lo. I am not going to chop my arms off just because my favorite Phoenician tells me it is bad to play around on the internet and it is bad for my health.
I noticed that. It is a thing that we talk about. Deja lo means leave it, or put it down.
Oh well. I may lose some sleep, but i am not running around chopping arms. I don’t even know how to say that.
Corta Brazos might work, but i doubt it. Actually, no way, i take it back.
The last thing i need is another lecture about insomnia.
February 7, 2023 at 6:59 AM
Urspo
If you don’t feel a bad about your sleep then it isn’t insomnia or a matter.
February 7, 2023 at 4:41 AM
Anonymous
I gave up my landline years ago when it seemed it only rang with telemarketers. So my cell is the only connection with the outside world. With an elderly mother, and daughters out on their own, I sleep better with the phone next to me, just in case.
February 7, 2023 at 7:00 AM
Urspo
Hopefully you sleep well and the phone doesn’t mar your rest.
February 7, 2023 at 5:31 AM
Ron
I rarely have trouble sleeping. Pat told me that I fall asleep within seconds of my head hitting the pillow.
February 7, 2023 at 7:00 AM
Urspo
Lucky you! It’s an enviable trait.
February 7, 2023 at 6:07 AM
Debbie W.
I have never kept my phone in my bedroom, because I know myself too well. I’d be constantly listening and looking, and allowing my sleep to be disrupted. But first thing each morning I look forward to seeing what’s been posted overnight by friends like you. It’s the little things in life, right? 😊
February 7, 2023 at 7:01 AM
Urspo
Sensible woman to have the phone away like that!
We both fall asleep listening to our phones; they serve as bed time stories. On the negative I find myself waking early to ‘check’ the phone.
February 7, 2023 at 6:10 AM
David Godfrey
My phone is usually on the desk, on the other side of the room, it goes into do-not-disturb mode from 10PM to 7 AM. On the rare occasion that I need an alarm, I use the one in my phone, I have a clock with an alarm next to my bed, but I honestly don’t know how to set the alarm on it. 99 out of 100 days I don’t set an alarm, I haven’t for 14 years. Unless something is stressing me, I usually sleep very well.
February 7, 2023 at 7:02 AM
Urspo
I look forward to the day I can use the do-not-disturb mode. How odd it will feel to sleep with phone off.
February 7, 2023 at 6:17 AM
jenn
Alas, I am guilty of looking at things on my phone before bed. I also use my phone as my alarm clock and when I was regularly supply teaching, it was the means by which I was notified of jobs that day. It has become a bad habit and I should go back to reading before bed. I’m not the world’s best sleeper, but sometimes it’s due to husband’s snoring. -Jenn
February 7, 2023 at 7:03 AM
Urspo
Snoring spouses are almost as bad as cellphones when it comes to getting enough sleep, although banning the former from the bedroom is more difficult than the latter.
February 7, 2023 at 6:17 AM
janiejunebug
I keep my phone close by as I sleep in case of emergency, but I usually stop looking at it by 9 p.m., which helps me sleep better.
Love,
Janie
February 7, 2023 at 7:04 AM
Urspo
Good for you!
I try very hard to not look at the phone after 930PM; the light mars melatonin and proper falling asleep.
February 7, 2023 at 7:30 AM
Debra She Who Seeks
I have an iPhone but almost never look at anything on the internet with it. I use it primarily as a phone. It’s like having a Ferrari only to drive to the grocery store. Anyway, since I’m not screen-addicted to it, my phone is on my bedside table at night in case I need to call 911 or something. So it does not interfere with my sleep routine.
February 7, 2023 at 7:33 AM
Urspo
That’s a rare thing viz. using a cellphone to make calls!
I still get startles when I call someone as if this is an odd thing nowadays.
February 7, 2023 at 7:52 AM
Ron
I know!
February 7, 2023 at 8:25 AM
Steven
I can certainly believe this in today’s world. Thankfully, I have never let the cellphone take over my life. Once I get in bed, it’s down for the night. I do like the alarms on the cellphone better than the alarm clock, though. A less “alarming” awakening.
February 7, 2023 at 9:40 AM
Urspo
My cellphone is my alarm too. I have it play the prelude to “Das Rheingold”. This is a nice piece to wake up to.
February 7, 2023 at 9:21 AM
Robzilla
I have the phone charging on the night stand every night. I’m guilty of looking at it before I sleep, but I love the convenience of clearing out my inbox before I get out of bed.
February 7, 2023 at 9:41 AM
Urspo
Night time rituals of cleansing are a long time matters for putting away the day; I see how clearing out the inbox does similar.
February 7, 2023 at 11:51 AM
Old Lurker
I plead guilty to all charges, and beg mercy of the court. It is not as if I have any place other than my room to store electronic devices (nearly all of my belongings are in there) but that does not mean I should be staring at them from the time I awaken to the time I sleep.
February 7, 2023 at 4:06 PM
Urspo
Keeping the look-sees at the cellphones may be ‘good enough’
February 7, 2023 at 2:56 PM
Laurel Hill
I’ve always been a good sleeper (thank the gods) unless I’m anxious about something, in which case I wake at 3am and hope to sleep again after a Sleep Story. We bought nightstand lamps with USB chargers, so I silence my phone (Do Not Disturb mode) and turn the face down in case it randomly lights up without my permission. But I do tend to pick it up over coffee because I check the weather and/or posts from my DD who lives abroad. It’s a hard habit to break.
February 7, 2023 at 4:06 PM
Urspo
It’s sounds like you do good habits; good for you!
February 7, 2023 at 3:58 PM
Gigi Rambles
My phone is generally next to my bed. But generally, I don’t scroll through it prior to sleep. The only time I suffer with insomnia is if I am really stressed…or if I stay up past my usual bedtime and get a second wind, then I have trouble winding down to get some shut eye.
February 7, 2023 at 8:04 PM
Urspo
Aye that makes sense
My phone on the bed stand sends out telepathic messages to pick me up.
February 7, 2023 at 4:23 PM
larrymuffin
OK my question is; What about life and work balance? Could you not leave your phone off after 10pm and on again by 5am. Seems reasonable to me and would do wonders for your beauty sleep.
February 7, 2023 at 8:06 PM
Urspo
There must be 24/7 coverage. Up until recently I was the only one so no turn off for me. Happily, a page in the night is a rare event – I cannot remember when last I got one. All the same I keep it on/near by Heimdal-like.
February 7, 2023 at 6:33 PM
Blobby
ummmm……how would i do Wordle and Spelling Bee at 03:00? I’d have to get up and go to another room.
February 7, 2023 at 8:07 PM
Urspo
Patience above! You and Someone! The first thing he does usually when waking up is reach for his cellphone for Wordle. I reach to mine to send and receive good morning greetings. Sometimes we don’t talk to each other for thirty minutes.
February 8, 2023 at 1:05 AM
Linda Practical Parsimony
My phone is by the bed, turned off so no sounds and no light. Then, I forget to turn it on most days until after noon. I still cannot sleep!
February 8, 2023 at 6:22 AM
Urspo
Good for you! Sensible woman!
February 8, 2023 at 2:00 AM
Richard
I came here to support Someone. If he likes to wake up at 3:00 AM., and play Wordle, it really is not your business. I would be concerned, i don’t like it, but maybe he is just playing wordle and taking some time off. I would put this in the insomnia file.
If life in the Casa de Spo is as exhausting as it is in Chez Richard, i would not worry about it. Wordle at 3 am is the least of our worries.
I hate wordle, because i have a different vocabulary and when i try to do wordle talk, i always get corrected by some random church lady who wants me to turn christian and accept jesus christ as my savior and build a wall. Ugh. So anyway, insomnia is a normal response and i support someone.
February 8, 2023 at 6:23 AM
Urspo
Wordle at 3AM is only a matter if it is causing wake up at that hour and marring a good night’s sleep